I like women who haven’t lived with too many men.
I don’t expect virginity but I simply prefer women
who haven’t been rubbed raw by experience.
there is a quality about women who choose
men sparingly;
it appears in their walk
in their eyes
in their laughter and in their
gentle hearts.
women who have had too many men
seem to choose the next one
out of revenge rather than with
feeling.
when you play the field selfishly everything
works against you:
one can’t insist on love or
demand affection.
you’re finally left with whatever
you have been willing to give
which often is:
nothing.
some women are delicate things
some women are delicious and
wondrous.
if you want to piss on the sun
go ahead
but please leave them
alone.
a poem for swingers, a poem for the playgirls of the universe: By Charles Bukowski (via ericanicole)
Hmm. I like the feel of this a whole lot.
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interesting… so much is lost when one becomes jaded - more than you’d ever even think about
I just want a romantic.
I want to be with a guy who loves being in love with me as much as I love being in love with him! Who appreciates the little things I do for him that show him how in love with him I am, and who likes to do things that show me that he is truely in love with me. I’m not looking for over the top gush… I just want someone who will go out of his way to show me that I am not being taken for granted. Am I asking for too much?
Unknown (via anordinarygirl)
Tyler Knott, in response to this. (via hrrrthrrr)
(cue the Carrie Bradshaw blog post)….
I started thinking about the beginning stages of relationships. When they’re new and fresh, relationships are full of exciting dates, romantic evenings and passionate kisses. The honeymoon stage is pure bliss and excitement. But at some point, that all goes out the window. The habits of the relationship are formed; exciting dates are replaced with Chinese take-out, romantic evenings are replaced with evenings full of bickering, passionate kisses are replaced with mundane pecks. I can spot these couples on the street- the couples with the dry, rigamortis grip on each other’s hands, zero real affection, constantly snapping at each other. When I hear a couple arguing over dishtowels, I can’t help but wonder- when does the relationship take a turn from thrilling each other to killing each other?
Looking at the couples around me, I can only come to one conclusion. Relationships that are completely loveless are so messed for lack of trying to make actually the relationship function properly. You really do get what you put in. If you’re half-assing your relationship, it will certainly show. Relationships are easy in the beginning because the claws aren’t out. Both parties want to seem sweet and loving because they don’t yet feel comfortable releasing their inner relationship demons. But when they do… what the hell out.
There’s a point at which both people are so comfortable with each other, they feel they can do or say anything and their partner will still love them. Although I understand this, I also feel that it’s somewhat of a kiss of death for a relationship (at least when you’re in your 20’s). Neither person tries as much as they did in the beginning- putting on that cute outfit is unnecessary for the lady because she’s already snagged herself a man. While this certainly isn’t the case for all couples, it seems to be true for a lot of them. In the start of a relationship, putting in effort isn’t a big deal because it’s such an exciting stage. That wears off and what’s left? An effortless blah of a relationship. The only effort put in most of the time is in the bickering and fighting. Both parties can yell at each other all they want because they’re totally committed to each other.
This is no way to live. Just because there’s a commitment doesn’t mean it’ll last forever. Effort is essential to any relationship, whether it’s just beginning or in its seventh year. A relationship will undoubtedly be more successful if both people try as hard later in the relationship as they did in the beginning. Makes sense, right? Knowing that I’m not looking for a serious relationship right now, I’m going to try to remember all of this when that fateful day comes when I finally use the boyfriend word again.
Good post, and I agree with a lot of it… but I wonder how many people do believe that they can say terrible things to each other because they are committed to each other? That’s awful!
As wonderful as they are relationships are such confusing things, because there are no universal laws - no rules that apply to every relationship - all we have to guide us are instincts and personal desires and possible models that we have observed and learned from (e.g., I like it when people do this, I don’t like it when I see that). Yes, there are societal norms, but again norms serve only as guides and are ever changing. Are the people who bicker all the time happy in their relationships? Even though that’s not what I would ever want, I do accept that they indeed might be… hmm…
I need some of this today. The love, that is. I’m not really a big fan of watermelon. (via)
I’m a big fan of both - watermelon and love, that is. However, which takes first place always varies depending on the day
Dear John:
I want a man who knows what love is all about. You are generous, kind, thoughtful. People who are not like you admit to being useless and inferior. You have ruined me for other men. I yearn for you. I have no feelings whatsoever when we’re apart. I can be forever happy—will you let me be yours?
Gloria
Dear John:I want a man who knows what love is. All about you are generous, kind, thoughtful people, who are not like you. Admit to being useless and inferior. You have ruined me. For other men, I yearn. For you, I have no feelings whatsoever. When we’re apart, I can be forever happy. Will you let me be?
Yours, Gloria
—- Anonymous (via RF Cafe)
Beautiful…. hahaha
The flip sides of love and hate are just…. hilarious in this case.
Found by my friend Mandy in Toronto.
“Listen: I am trying to tell you that I find you to be really sophisticated and fascinating and gentle-spirited and I’m interested in you. Like inescapably in a love way. I’m tired of not knowing how to tell you about this. I know things are weird between us. Why should this be so hard? I’m going to ask you to meet me here next week. If you’re not interested don’t stand in front of this sign, stand on the other side of the building. If you’re interested too, could you please stand under this sign? Right here.”
I like.. scary though, vulnerability.
Albert Camus (via nerdalert)
“For everything to be consummated, for me to feel less alone, I had only to wish that there be a large crowd of spectators the day of my execution and that they greet me with cries of hate.”
Now that is a Camus Quote
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My friend “H” put up some of her friends words of advice in her fb profile and I quite agree with the general sentiment and wisdom (even the fact that is is fb wisdom doesn’t detract from the honesty and truth behind it).
